“So much of the process depended on random, heart-breaking chance,” she says. Each month brought fresh disappointment and loss. But thanks to Gormally’s organizational skills and love of making lists, the couple landed on a donor with relative ease. As a queer woman wanting to have a baby, the biology professor had figured finding a sperm donor would be the only obstacle she and her partner faced. Cara Gormally’s pregnancy was shadowed by grief.
